How can I enjoy my hot disabled body whilst dealing with internalised ableism?How can I best navigate my sex life with mobility issues or a carer?Why are queer spaces so inaccessible - and what can I do about it?Andrew Gurza is seriously hot. He''s also seriously disabled. Having spent a lifetime navigating the bars, clubs and apps of the queer scene, he''s learned a thing or two about sparking queer crip joy amidst the hellscape of ableism, microaggressions and ''pity sex''. With advice on everything from sexual autonomy and self-pleasure to date-prep and disability disclosure - this is both a self-care bible and an urgent call for the queer community to do better.